How do we divide assets without fighting?

Every discussion about dividing assets turns into an argument. How can we make the process less painful?

Dividing assets is one of the most challenging parts of divorce, but with the right approach, it doesn’t have to be a battle. Here are some strategies to help:

1. Focus on Transparency
   Start by gathering all financial information—bank accounts, debts, investments, and property. When everything is on the table, it’s easier to have an honest discussion.

2. Prioritize Your Needs
   Separate emotions from practical needs. Ask yourselves: What’s essential for your future? This clarity can reduce conflicts over what truly matters.

3. Be Willing to Compromise
   You might not get everything you want, and that’s okay. Fairness isn’t about splitting everything 50/50—it’s about finding a balance that works for both of you.

4. Consider the Long-Term Picture
   Think beyond today. A mediator can help you look at the bigger picture, including tax implications, future income, and retirement, to ensure a sustainable agreement.

5. Use a Neutral Mediator
   Mediation provides a structured, respectful space to discuss your options. As neutrals, we help guide the conversation, keep emotions in check, and work toward a fair resolution. A huge upside of mediation is that you can table the tricky issues that create conflict until you meet with your mediator.

Remember, every step you take toward resolving these issues peacefully is a step toward a stronger foundation for your future. Let mediation turn this challenging process into a productive one.

Here to help when you’re ready.