How do we minimize conflict over the holidays?
How Do We Split Holidays Without Conflict?
Holiday schedules can be tricky, but with a little planning and compromise, you can create a joyful season for your kids. Here’s how:
Start with the Kids’ Best Interests
Think about what will make the holidays special for them. Children care less about the exact schedule and more about feeling loved and supported by both parents.Be Clear and Specific
A vague plan can lead to misunderstandings. Decide exactly who will have the kids on which days and at what times. Consider splitting major holidays or alternating them each year.Get Creative
If you can’t agree on splitting a specific day, celebrate on a different day. Kids love having two celebrations—it’s double the fun!Stay Flexible
Life happens, and sometimes plans need to change. Approach adjustments with understanding, not blame. Flexibility shows your kids you can work together for their sake.Use Mediation
If communication is challenging, mediation can help you create a clear, fair holiday plan. A mediator provides a neutral space to discuss your options and find solutions that work for everyone.
Remember, the goal isn’t just to avoid conflict it’s to find common ground and reach a workable agreement. This sets a positive example for your kids. Showing them how to work through disagreements with respect and kindness is a gift they’ll carry for life.
Warm wishes for a peaceful holiday season.
