We can’t agree to a parenting time plan. Help!

How do we agree to a parenting time plan when we have very different ideas about custody and parenting time?

Creating a parenting plan can be tough, but it’s a critical step in ensuring your children’s well-being and stability. Here are some tips to guide the process:

1. Put the Kids First
   Focus on what will help your children feel loved, secure, and supported. Think about their needs—school schedules, activities, and maintaining strong relationships with both parents.

2. Be Detailed, but Flexible
   A good parenting plan covers schedules, holidays, and decision-making responsibilities. While it’s essential to be specific, leave room for adjustments as life evolves.

3. Keep Communication Open
   Effective co-parenting relies on clear, respectful communication. Use tools like shared calendars or co-parenting apps to stay organized and reduce misunderstandings. If there is a lot of conflict when communicating about the children then keep the communication “BIFF”: brief, informative, friendly, firm.

4. Focus on Fairness, Not Winning
   It’s not about getting “your way”; it’s about finding a balance that works for everyone. Mediation helps create a plan that’s fair, practical and workable for both parents and kids.

5. Seek Guidance When Needed
   A neutral mediator can help you navigate the process calmly and constructively, offering creative solutions and ensuring the plan addresses everyone’s concerns.

The goal of a parenting plan isn’t just to divide time; it’s to provide your children with the stability and love they need to thrive. If you’re ready to work together on a solution, mediation can help you get there.

Wishing your family peace and clarity.